Predetermined roles for children? Lucille
Forer wrote this article "How Your Birth Order Influences Your Life Adjustment”.
A child’s characteristics, behavioral and how they view themselves are impacted
by the order in which they were born. The child takes on a particular role in
the family dynamic and learns different mannerisms. Just like the older sibling
is the reliable one, compared to the younger siblings. I agree with the author
on “It influences him to develop certain attitudes toward himself and toward
other people and helps him develop specific patterns of behavior” This all
coming from a middle child too!
I have developed
certain behaviors from being the middle child. I learned to be quiet but effective.
To wait and listen before I speak. Some might not think this is a good thing. I
found that I learned more, improved skills in whatever I was doing or wanted to
do. I also felt there were benefits growing up in a large family.
In the movie “Home
Alone” is an example of the youngest sibling being irresponsible. Macaulay
Culkin gets in to trouble and is sent to his room for punishment. Culkin wakes
up late and misses the family vacation and is all alone! I this turn of events
he develops the traits of an only child. Culkin learns to fend for himself
because no one is there to take care of him. It just goes to show the
adaptability.
There are many
situations which depicts this article like “My Keeper” is a story of an older
sister having to take on a mentally ill younger sister. She becomes her
guardian and provider, just like the characteristics of the older sibling.
Everyone has distinct
characteristics from our upbringing and environment. Be it good or bad ones,
everyone needs to acknowledge them and make a change if needed. Having the
traits or behaviors could be beneficial if used correctly.
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